Things took a bit of a turn when the stork plopped Baby Grundy on Fort Grundy’s drawbridge back in February 2025.
Up until that point, life had always been a balancing act between my full time banking job and everything else. That included my role as boyfriend in chief, newsletter impresario, coach and wannabe fitness nut. Not to mention being a brother, a son and a drinking companion to various friends and acquaintances too.
So becoming a Dad changed the maths somewhat.
It added another wriggly, gurgly and rather unpredictable ball to an already overcrowded juggling act.
And thus, for the first few months of Toddler Grundy’s time on planet Earth, I found myself pondering:
How am I going to balance being a Dad with everything else AND still find time to put my feet up in front of the box? (very important)
What I’ve come to see over the last little while is that this balance doesn’t actually exist.
There isn't Banker Tom over here, Coach Tom over there and Dad Tom dangling somewhere in the middle, all needing to be kept in some sort of perfect equilibrium.
There’s just me.
When I'm helping Toddler Grundy scale the climbing frame in our garden, I'm not “Dad Tom” trying to be a good Dad.
I’m just ME, being with Toddler Grundy.
So rather than asking myself “how do I balance all this?”, the question I’m asking myself more and more is “how do I want to live?”
Which means I don't think about balance any more.
I think about choice instead.
Some days I’ll leave the office at 5pm and other days I’ll burn the midnight oil. Some days I'll write three newsletters and other days I’ll write none. And some days I’ll promote my Career Clarity Coaching and other days I won’t.
Today is one of the days that I will.
If you’re wrestling with a career choice of your own, that's exactly what my Career Clarity Coaching is for.
You can find all the info here:
https://tomgrundy.coach/career-clarity-coaching
To fulfilment,
Tom